Life Hack: Enrolling Others to Change My Reality
It's really simple and can be quite sexy
It can be so simple to create my new reality. Kudos to Landmark to first showing me this. Here’s how it works.
People in my life view me in a certain way. And will usually continue to see me in that way and reinforce that view of me over time. When I think about it, I also have views of other people as being their own certain ways. And because of these existing views, we treat each other in the same ways that reinforce those existing views.
Now if I’m trying to improve myself and change my life, I can easily do things on my own. But it’s when I come into contact with people close to me that things get interesting.
Other people have their existing views of me as my old self, so they will naturally treat me as my old self - creating resistance for me to become my new self.
I am experiencing this right now with my parents. I am committed to stabilizing my business, and growing my income in a sustainable and steady way. My parents see me as some sort of starving artist… which is totally valid because the last two years haven’t been that best for my bank account.
As I am currently stepping up my game and calling in more work and clients, my parents continue to emit this energy of worry and concern towards me… holding me to this old energy I am trying to let go of. So what have I done? I’ve stopped talking to them about work. Which is NOT the message in this article.
My message here, which is now my homework, is to enroll my parent into my new reality that I am working towards - the steady income, the re-building of my business, the financial stability (they’ve always wanted for me). I know it’s coming. If they do too, things will be much easier for me.
Do you get it yet? If you want to change your life, enroll the people closest to you in the change you want and they will treat you as that new person. If you don’t enroll them, you’re only making it harder for yourself to achieve what you want.
Example: you want to lose weight. You don’t tell your wife and she keeps buying ice cream and cookies to have at the house. You try to cut back but the ice cream is always there staring at you from the freezer. Eventually your will power fades, your habits remain the same, and you don’t lose weight.
OR - you enroll her into your vision for yourself having lost 20 pounds and your belly fat being gone. She wants to support you, and she stops buying ice cream and cooking. She doesn’t think it’s weird that you go on more walks, and go to the gym more. She doesn’t question why you’re eating less unhealthy foods. You both start eating healthier, working out together. Turns out you’ve both lost weight, are feeling healthier, and are back to having amazing sex.
See, this article was actually about sex.
The end.